So, I know you are all excited by that title, and it might make you think that I'm talking about a phase of relationship.
Well, that's kinda true, but not what you are thinking. This is phase 2 for me and my efforts to work with the polyamory community at large.
I wrote my book, Polyamory: It's Not Complicated, to reach out to the community and newcomers with a great foundation to start the work.
But it was just a start. I have at least a half dozen more related books on the way over the next few years.
This isn't just about writing books, though. I have a much bigger vision. Phase 2 is expanding that vision into promoting other books as well. And there are so many great books out there.
One of the books I just started reading is More Than Two. It's almost scary how much the authors, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, think like me in terms of relationship styles and consent.
Of course, their take is unique and original to themselves, as are their experiences. I'm quite enjoying this book which takes a more psychological look at polyamory.
I love that so many people in polyamory are reaching the same conclusions from completely independent points of view. This validates what conclusions we are coming to.
I was very strict in NOT reading any other specifically polyamorous books before writing mine. Once I get an idea in my head, it's hard to shake, and I certainly didn't want to copy anyone's concepts. I did read one book, though, to ensure that what I was going to write didn't stray too far from what most people were doing.
I read the Ethical Slut nearly a year before writing my own book. This book is considered the bible of most nonmonogamous people, and especially polyamory. It's a book that is very old, by today's standards of publishing, but I wouldn't call it dated. It remains relevant, valuable, and I believe, an absolute must read for anyone even thinking about starting polyamory.
Of course, it and More Than Two are very West Coast books. One is more hippy free love, Ethical Slut. The other is very intellectual, More Than Two.
Ethical Slut is Spicy.
More Than Two is Mild.
Polyamory: It's Not complicated is Muy Caliente! And, it's written without too much intellect and no hippy free love. And I'm glad for that. I'm glad to have provided a very unique perspective with a completely different tone than anyone else.
So, I'm now entering Phase 2. I've read so many books on relationships, nonmonogamy, bdsm, swinging, etc that while my expertise is contained in the books that I write, it's also contained in the books, podcasts, toys, and other resources of many communities that revolve in the nonmonogamy universe.
Phase 2 is that I'm going to create a place where these recommendations are all brought together. Sure, I want you to read my book. But I also want you to read from these other wonderful authors.
After all, they are not my competition. You don't buy their book and go "Well, I now know everything! No reason to ever read another book again!" In fact, you read their book, and another, and another, and another.
Phase 2 is moving towards a supportive community of advice.
I'm no publisher, nor am I a network. Those already exist out there, and I have other plans in my life.
No, what I want to do is be an advocate, pointing people in the right direction regardless of whether the resources comes from me or from someone else. As such, that's exactly what I'm going to start doing now through next spring.
In fact, the ad campaigns that I run online no longer promote my book, but promote all of the books I recommend on this site.
Right now, that's just a single page. But going forward, that's going to become nearly an entire site unto itself. When complete, I want to be a quick and easy one stop portal for going to the places you need to go to find the resources you need.
Sometimes, that's joining a local MeetUp group. Sometimes, that's joining an online Facebook group. And other times, that's buying a book or other relationship aid.
And for that, I'm going to be working very hard on bringing those things to you. In fact, I'm going to be creating a searchable online resource. Got a specific question or problem? Boom: Here's the answer and resources you need.
No more hunting around Google or vast sites to find exact answers.
Because if I've learned one thing from marketing to this community, it's that there are tens of thousands of people typing in searches everyday, winding up on my site, and they are all asking questions that I know the answer to.
I could try to answer them all, and I'll certainly answer some. But it would be better if I just point people to the information they need, as easy as possible, without an 80,000 word FAQ for them to read through.
The person looking for how to negotiate a polyamorous relationship doesn't need to learn the difference between a V and a Triad yet. That's distracting. What they need is pointed to the right resource on negotiating with a partner through compassion.
And that's Phase 2 for me and this website.